I’m
going to give you a very blunt and honest answer. So blunt that it
makes me cringe writing it down… and yet it’s the truth. Warning: I’m
about to write a whole bunch of stuff that can be considered racist.
It’s definitely stereotyping. Yet like I said, it’s unfortunately true.
Like the other answer here mentioned, it depends on the kind of foreigner.
- White
Caucasian - whether we’re talking about North American or European (or
Australian or New Zealand), if your partner is a white/caucasian person
then that’s almost always considered a great catch for a Filipino…
especially if it’s a Filipino man hooking up with a white girl. Long
story short, white foreigner = top of the food chain when it comes to
choosing partners. Plus points if they’re actually attractive and close
to your age range.
- Fancy
Asian - there was a comedian by the name of Ali Wong who coined the
term “Fancy Asian” which basically grouped together the 3 most
powerful/influential east Asian peoples, namely Japanese, Chinese and
South Koreans. If a Filipino manages to score a pure-blooded Japanese,
Chinese or South Korean partner then that’s considered a step up, almost
as high a step up as nabbing a white foreigner. Plus points if they’re
actually attractive and within your age range. Double plus points if
they actually speak English.
- White
Hispanic - this primarily means Spanish people, but it basically
includes any fair-skinned person of hispanic descent. We can also
include Italians here as well (which as far as Filipinos are concerned
are still considered “white”). Filipinos were under Spanish rule for
centuries, so it’s almost a group stockholm syndrome where Filipinos
developed an admiration for their captors. Till this day, the ability to
speak in straight Spanish will immediately raise the “market-value” of
any Filipino. It’s also considered a high compliment if someone remarks
that you look Spanish. So if you end up nabbing a Spanish partner? Great
job.
- Black
Americans - or Black Canadians, or Black English (UK). Basically any
black partner from a first world country. Still considered a step-up for
a Filipino to have a black partner as long as they come from a first
world country…. though not quite as impressive as grabbing a partner
from the top 3 races I mentioned.
- Latinos/Latinas
- something we need to admit is that Filipinos generally consider
fairness of skin to be an asset. Fair-skinned latino/latina is
considered a great catch (which is why white hispanics are listed as #3)
whereas darker skinned latinos/latinas will only be considered a good
catch primarily for them being foreigners (and thus exotic).
I’d
say those top 5 are the partners a Filipino/Filipina can have where
most other Filipinos will look at them with awe and respect… mixed in
with a hefty dose of bitterness and envy as well. They’re considered a
step-up for a regular Filipino to have a partner like them (regardless
of whether it’s true or not), especially if you’re not a rich Filipino.
However,
there are other foreigners that Filipinos don’t take too kindly to.
Most southeast Asian foreigners are considered relatively equal to
Filipinos in terms of dating value. So getting a partner who’s Thai or
Cambodian or Indonesian doesn’t really cause much reaction. It’s neither
a step up or a step down. More like a step to the side.
However,
there are a few races that Filipinos consider a step down. Primarily
would be Indians and Middle-Easterners. Grab a partner like that and
most Filipinos would look at you with a befuddled expression, like they
couldn’t understand why you’d settle for one of them instead of just
going for another Filipino. Then you’ll get a lot of backhanded insults
about how your partner probably smells bad or whether you only eat curry
at home.
I’m
also unsure how African blacks fit into the picture, as in black people
from Congo or Ghana or something. Generally, Filipinos don’t find dark
skin attractive but exceptions are made for black Americans because
they’re from a first world country. Having a black partner from a third
world country would be considered a step down for most Filipinos I
think, although there are a good number of Filipinos who think having
black genes mixed in your family line would produce more athletic
children.
EDIT: Based on a number of comments I’m receiving, it seems I need to clarify a few things:
- First,
the points I raised above do not reflect my own personal views on the
matter. I’m merely describing the general reactions I’ve observed from
Filipinos while living in the Philippines for 20+ years.
- The
views I described above are based on Filipinos living in the
Philippines. It’s not quite as applicable to Filipinos living in other
countries.
- The
views I described above are generalized, meaning not all Filipinos will
feel that way. Generally, you’ll find the more upper class Filipinos
are less in awe of foreigners as they mingle a lot more with them and
have more opportunities to travel abroad. Unfortunately, majority of the
Philippines’ population live below the poverty line, so foreigners are a
bit of a novelty to most.
- I
grew up in the Philippines but am only quarter Filipino by racial
background. I was mostly treated as a mestizo (mixed blood) when I was
in the Philippines though there were a few times I was mistaken for a
full foreigner, and on many occasions I was on the receiving end of the
scenarios I presented above.
- Physical
appearance, personality, age, financial status and family/culture
background will obviously all affect the choice of partner as well as
the gossip surrounding that choice. But the scenario I’m trying to
answer here is assuming that everything else is equal, so that we’re
only considering race. The question I’m trying to answer here is this:
How would dating a foreigner differ from dating a co-Filipino
considering everything else about them is equal other than their race?
- Lastly,
racism is present in all countries. What I described above might paint
the Filipinos in a racist light but to be honest, I’ve found racism in
the Philippines to be very benign compared to a lot of other countries
I’ve visited. At least their racism isn’t expressed in verbal or
physical abuse… which is more than I can say for a lot of other
countries. In fact, I’ve faced far more abusive racism in the US (and
some European countries) than I ever did in the Philippines. Yet the
racism I’ve faced is nothing compared to the stories I’ve heard from my
Filipino friends who work in middle-eastern countries.